Displaced – “to cause something/someone to move on from its proper or usual place
Home – “a place where one lives permanently, especially as a member of a family or household”
“an institution for people needing professional care or supervision” (this one might apply to our family more – ha!)
As of today we have been “displaced” from our home for 3 days. Our air conditioner has finally died, and due to the fact that we live in Texas and it’s almost July – this is a real problem. Because there are 4 of us that stay in my house right now, it’s really hard to burden someone with 4 people at the same time. To make things easier my two younger kids are staying with their older sister for a few days (we go and see them at least once a day, they’re just across town) and my husband and I have been staying at friends homes.
Why is it that we’re so connected to our home? That we get so wrapped up in how it looks and what it portrays about us? Psychologists say that in our western culture, our very identity is wrapped up in our houses, and if that’s taken away from us it leaves a void. Don’t you agree that YOUR home says a lot about you? If you walk into a friends house for the first time, can’t you tell a lot about them by how they decorate and what it looks like? Our home is more than a place we have the right to live in, it’s a place that houses our families and provides safety and comfort. A place where we belong. Take that away and let me tell you, it feels like your world is off kilter and you’re pretty uncomfortable.
As you’ve heard me talk about in the past here, we live far from family and have been blessed with friends where we live that are very much family to us! Because of the generosity of those friends, we have had a place to stay for the last few days; one home was with a couple that just had their first baby 6 months ago (playing with a baby for 2 days – yes please!), and now we are staying with friends that have a separate garage apartment (so that our schedule during the week doesn’t get in anybody’s way).
With all the back and forth craziness with the air conditioning company and the constant running from one place to another, and running here and there for things we keep forgetting…we have been less than easy guests I’m sure, and our hosts have been nothing but kind and generous.
Here’s a few tips that I would give on how to be a good hostess to overnight guests and help them feel more at home (like our awesome friends did):
1. Share your toothpaste, etc. with them – displaced people often forget that they will need to brush their teeth in the future and leave their home unprepared (I forgot ALL hair products and went to work today looking like a cave man – sorry coworkers!)
2. Offer extra blankets – especially after you let them know that you keep the house at a chilly 68 degrees at night (thanks for the blankets Todd!)
3. Remember to let them know what the house rules are – the last thing you would want was a guest coming into your house first thing in the morning and finding you doing your naked yoga…these are important details to convey
Right now I am sitting on the bed in a quiet room, listening to birds chirping outside my window, maybe displacement does have its advantages after all…
Do you have any funny stories from times you’ve been a guest at someone’s home? I’d love to hear it! Leave your comments below!